Rare Leadership is a pocket book guide on how to build and cultivate emotional maturity while developing effective leadership habits. This becomes a catalyst for a robust and productive work environment! The book centers on the acronym R.A.R.E.
Here’s a quick rundown of my thoughts on the acronym:
R- Remain Relational: Be kind, Curious, Personable, and work together! Show appreciation as much as you can!
A- Act Like Yourself: Remain an adult! Show people that they belong, and stay steady!
R- Return to Joy: Validation plus comfort equals JOY!
E- Endure Hardship Well: Dig Deep, Keep Going, Find your GRIT!
The author states that maintaining a strong relational connection within your teams and YOU yourself leading from a place of emotional health and resilience is the key!
So my first question is… How do you lead from a place of emotional health and resilience?
To me… besides following the book you really have to go back to you. You need to make sure that you are getting enough sleep, you need to make sure that you are filling your cup and not emptying it.You need to make sure that you are planning to succeed. What does that mean? From my experience when I have got enough sleep, when I have taken the time to prepare for the day as much as possible, it really doesn’t matter what happens I can act and react with grace and integrity. When I stay up late and I am in a constant state of reaction… truly treading water… my actions and reactions are less than stellar.
The author states that navigating through challenging situations with grace and patience can enhance team cohesion and resilience.
How do you handle a situation with grace and patience? In my experience it’s always best to keep your body language really calm, and remember to listen first, always. Today while I was at work I was introduced to a group by a patron as someone that can have literal chaos all around her and she is still insanely steady…. This introduction made me laugh! I had many questions running through my head! The person that I was getting introduced to asked… How do you keep calm when everything is so wild around you? I told them I didn’t know that I was exuding such peace but my philosophy has always been to do one thing at a time and then move to the next task. You can only do one thing well at a time, so you might as well focus, dig in, and keep going. When you decide to look up you may be surprised that all of your work that should have panicked you is complete! When crew members at one of our businesses tell me something that internally makes me want to scream… I may simply ask… Can you walk me through your thought process so I can understand? Or say… I hear you – let’s problem solve and see how we can make it work together.
Both of these questions take a lot of focus and engagement with you and your team. It’s a lot of work. It also takes a lot of training and messing up, before you get it right!