It’s Me, Dopamine, [Ini Saya, Dopamin…]
“The Molecule of More: How a Single Chemical in Your Brain Drives Love, Sex, and Creativity – And Will Determine the Fate of the Human Race,” by Daniel Lieberman and Michael Long,[1] offers a fascinating exploration of how a single chemical, dopamine can shape the entirety of human experience.
The thesis of “The Molecule of More,” explores the impact of dopamine, a neurotransmitter that plays a pivotal role in human behavior,[2] emotions, and societal dynamics. Additionally, it presents a compelling narrative that connects various aspects of life through the lens of dopamine’s influence. I would categorize this book as a combination of science, psychology, and philosophy.
Dopamine: The Chemical of Desire
Dopamine is referred to as the “molecule of more,”[3] driving our desires for novelty and achievement. Lieberman and Long argue that this constant pursuit of more has both positive and negative effects: it fosters creativity and innovation, but can also lead to addiction and dissatisfaction. They illustrate this duality by showing how dopamine impacts various aspects of life, including romantic relationships and professional ambitions.
It made me wonder about passion addressed by Angela Duckworth in her book “Grit.”[4] Doesn’t passion leads to more? Can I consider desire as passion? I don’t know, just curious I guess! The Molecule of More emphasizes how the pursuit of more—fueled by dopamine (experience) while Grit is a combination of sustained effort and commitment to long-term goals. Moving along…
Love and Relationships
The authors discuss how dopamine influences romantic love. Initially, dopamine creates feelings of euphoria and desire, making the early stages of love exciting.[5] However, as relationships develop, this dopamine-driven excitement tends to diminish, leading to a more stable but less passionate phase. This transition can pose challenges for couples, as the initial thrill gives way to a more ordinary reality.[6] Lieberman and Long suggest that understanding this biochemical process can help individuals strengthen their relationships and foster deeper connections, even as the initial spark fades
Creativity and Innovation
Dopamine’s role in creativity is another focal point of the book.[7] The authors argue that individuals with higher dopamine levels tend to be more creative, as they are more willing to take risks and explore uncharted territories. This statement reminds me of Elon Musk who has now landed a creative position (DOGE role) partnering with the upcoming Trump administration.[8] Is this an interplay of dopamine in shaping not only Musk’s life but also the American government? Is this causing anxiety for the government employees?
Addiction and Compulsion
The book also addresses the darker side of dopamine: addiction. The authors explain how the pursuit of pleasure can become an all-consuming obsession, leading individuals to engage in harmful behaviors. Dopamine’s relentless demand for more can make it difficult for addicts to find satisfaction in anything other than their substance of choice.[9] This has reflected on several prominent Christian leaders such as Red Haggard, Jim Baker, Mark Driscoll, Brian Houston and many more.
Political Polarization
Based on the current political atmosphere, I can see how dopamine affects our political beliefs and actions. The authors suggest that our cravings, driven by dopamine, influence how we connect with political ideas, making us stick to our views and less open to change.[10] This helps explain why there is so much division in politics today.
The Future of Humanity
Lieberman and Long wrap up by discussing how dopamine affects our future as a society. They warn that as we chase after more—whether it’s through technology, shopping, or social media—we might forget what really matters in life. The authors suggest we need to find a balance: while it’s good to be ambitious and driven, we should also practice being mindful and appreciating the present moment.[11]
Take away
I found the text helpful in exploring how love, creativity, addiction, and politics influence human behavior. It increased my awareness of my own desires and motivations, clarifying what drives me. In a world increasingly shaped by dopamine, the lessons from this book can guide me toward a more balanced and fulfilling life.
Additionally, this book reminded me of a phrase my coworker called me when I was in my 30s: “Hummingbird on drugs.” I was dumfounded but he found it endearing, reflecting my high energy and ambitious personality. I wonder if that’s dopamine…
Conclusion
Essentially, the authors want readers to focus not just on chasing after more, but on the quality of our experiences and relationships. They suggest that understanding and managing our natural desires is key to living a meaningful life.
[1] Lieberman, Daniel Z., and Michael E. Long. The Molecule of More: How a Single Chemical in Your Brain Drives Love, Sex, and Creativity – And Will Determine the Fate of the Human Race (Dallas: BenBella Books, 2018).
[2] Lieberman and Long, 150.
[3] Lieberman and Long, Cover.
[4] Angela Duckworth, Grit; the Power of Passion and Perseverance (New York; Scribner, 2016), 95.
[5] Lieberman and Long, 3.
[6] Lieberman and Long, 149.
[7] Lieberman and Long, 20.
[8] Dogecoin Government, accessed November 20, 2024, https://dogegov.com/.
[9] Lieberman and Long, 45.
[10] Lieberman and Long, 145.
[11] Lieberman and Long, 199.
About the Author
Shela Sullivan
Born and raised on the vibrant Penang Island in Malaysia, I cherish the Malaysian greeting, “Mari Makan!!” which reflects the warmth of shared meals. Since 1996, I have called Oregon my home enjoying the raindrops and the serenity of its beaches. The ocean connects me to nature and energizes me. I am a Wife - Mentor - Traveling Pastor - Sourcing Manager Construction. Favorite Bible Verse: "Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart." ~ Psalm 37:4~ I reside with my husband, David and our fur-baby Rolo. We share passions for travelling, culture, diverse cuisines, home improvements, classic cars and humor.12 responses to “It’s Me, Dopamine, [Ini Saya, Dopamin…]”
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Shela,
I appreciate the way that you tied this book into the current political realities. With Musk now leading DOGE I would imagine that many federal employees are looking at the way he fired a large swath of Twitter employees as soon as he took over that. Do you think that the anxiousness of federal employees might factor into the Friedman’s work on the Failure of Nerve?
Thank you, Adam, for reading my post.
Friedman’s book, “A Failure of Nerve” emphasizes the importance of leaders being calm, steady, and differentiated in the face of anxiety. Given this perspective, the anxiousness of federal employees could indeed factor into Friedman’s analysis. I sense Musk thrives in chaotic environments, rather than in calm settings.
If federal employees are experiencing high levels of anxiety with DOGE coming into effective, they could become reactive rather than proactive and focus on quick fixes rather than long-term solutions.
Hi Shela, great connection between dopamine and grit. I wonder how Duckworth thinks about dopamine and if that’s really the underlying driver of perseverance.
Regarding your takeaways, do you see any practical ways that you’ll work to have a more balanced and fulfilling life?
Hi Christy, thank you for reading my post.
Duckworth’s, book “Grit”, she emphasizes the role of passion and perseverance in achieving long-term goals. While she does not focus extensively on dopamine specifically, she acknowledges the importance of neurological processes in sustaining motivation and focus, which are essential components of perseverance. I think when we engage in activities we are passionate about, dopamine release can reinforce our efforts and help us stay committed to our goals.
I work best under pressure. I constantly challenge time. I do practice self-care. I usually do not take on additional work to please my manager or attend get togethers when I need time to rest. I am not afraid to say ‘no’. I observe Sabbath from Friday sunset to Saturday sunset. I keep technology away from me as much as possible, spend time with my husband and friends. I practice gratitude (quiet time with God) and meet with a Spiritual Counselor quarterly. My company offers wellness programs at no cost, which do use.
Hi Shela,
I enjoyed you tying together “Grit” with “Molecle of More.” I had the same question as Christy. Since you already answered it to her, I’ll add a bit more. You said, “The lessons from this book can guide me toward a more balanced and fulfilling life.” It seems like you already have good things in place. What practices or things do you want to change or build on since reading this book?
Hi Kari,
Thank you for your questions.
I appreciate your observation. While I have already implemented several positive practices in my life, reading this book has inspired me to focus on a few key areas for further improvement:
I want to build on my existing health habits by adding regular exercise and healthier eating to my routine. I aim to set clearer boundaries between work and personal life to ensure I have adequate time for relaxation and self-care.
Shela,
I read your post after I posted on Graham’s I asked him about dopamine and the negative behavior of some pastors. Seems like several of the posts I have read tonight I have found several connections to my thinking. Not sure if that’s good or bad. Am I thinking more like my cohort members (good) or are they thinking more like me (bad).
Like Adam, I appreciate your brining Musk into your post. I honestly think there has to be so much anxiety in many federal employees lives right now.
As you reflect on the role dopamine plays in your life, what excites you about the DLGP program?
Hi Jeff, thank you for reading my post.
I greatly enjoy the new discoveries from the books we read, the stories share in our weekly chats, our Monday morning Zoom calls, and the blessings of knowing you, Diane, and Daren. Over the past 1.5 years, the intellectual growth I have experienced has been remarkable, stretching my mind and reaffirming that I can achieve this. Additionally, I am excited about the potential career advancements and opportunities that a doctoral degree could unlock. The chance to work to research the real-world applications and impact is truly inspiring.
Hi Shela, I laughed when I read about your colleague calling you a hummingbird on drugs. I remember our conversation at the Malaysian restaurant in D.C. and your request for prayer concerning your job. As I read your blog, I couldn’t help but compare the love and relationships subcategory to your current season of wanting something more concerning work. Do you think any of Lieberman and Long’s examples concerning diminished passion might apply to your current job and desire for more? Thanks again for your post.
Hi Shela,
Hats off to you for your intentional observance of Sabbath and focus on the things and people in your life that are most important. Do you find that setting those boundaries at work has in any way hindered your career path?
Hi Diane,
Thank you for your question.
Setting these boundaries at work has never hindered my career path. I am very transparent about my after-work priorities. Throughout my career, I have consistently negotiated the inclusion of observing the Sabbath in my employment contracts. However, I do volunteer to help on Saturdays during major storms as I work for a Utility.
Hi Elysse,
Based on the insights from Lieberman and Long’s “The Molecule of More,” I can draw some parallels between the love and relationships subcategory and my current desire for more fulfillment at work. One key example of diminished passion is the idea that, just as relationships can lose their initial spark over time sometimes, a job can also become routine and lose its excitement (my current career state). It is my craving for new challenges and opportunities.
Applying this to my current job, I recognize that while I still appreciate the stability and achievements, the initial excitement has waned. This diminished passion motivates me to seek out new projects, responsibilities, or even a change in career path to reignite that sense of purpose and enthusiasm.
Overall, just as Lieberman and Long suggest rekindling passion in relationships through novel experiences and growth, I aim to apply similar principles to my professional life by seeking continuous growth and new experiences.