How Positive Emotions Can Save Your Holidays
“It’s the most wonderful time of the year” – but sometimes, it doesn’t feel like it. The holidays can pose the biggest challenge for being the kind of people we want to be and maintaining a positive mindset. So what is there to do? What can we focus on this year that has the power to help us create lasting memories? Positivity.
There are times we all get tired of hearing we need to “be more positive.” Is positivity some kind of weird self-help theory that instructs us to feel “good” when things in life are painful, difficult, or tragic?
This is exactly what I thought. Strong arm myself into the person I should be by reading another self-help book, listening to a pop-preacher’s message. or brainwashing myself into believing something about my life that isn’t currently true. But that’s not positivity at all.
Positivity is not about simple self-help techniques. It is about being a healthier version of yourself by building important things in your life – like positive emotions. These include joy, serenity, gratitude, love and amusement – emotions we all need more of in our lives! It’s about creating ways to make the amazing things about life shine brighter and happen more often. It’s also about a better you filled with kindness, meaning, and purpose – the version of you that creates personal fulfilment and promotes healthy relationships.
According to Barbara Fredrickson, PhD, and author of the book, Positivity, “when we experience a positive emotion, our vision literally expands, allowing us to make creative connections, see our oneness with others, and face our problems with clear eyes. Second, as we make a habit of seeking out these pleasing states, we change and grow, becoming better versions of ourselves, developing the tools we need to make the most out of life.”
Isn’t that something you want in your life? The first place we have to start is realising that, we are enough. You have all the resources inside of you to passionately live the kind of life you desire. It’s not about perfection. It is about coming alive in areas of your life that have been dormant and tapping into what’s already inside of you. As Brené Brown says, “The opposite of scarcity is not abundance. It’s enough. I’m enough.”
This is also a faith issue. I’m convinced that we were all created to “create.” We create positive or negative emotions by how we act and what we say. A simple example is one I’ve mentioned in a previous post. If you speak in a positive way (internally and externally – in other words, what you say to yourself and what you say verbally), positive chemicals are released in your body. If you speak negatively, chemicals are released that shut you down and can even lead to depression. You can read more about this in a fascinating article by Harvard Business Review here. That’s why Proverbs 18:21 says, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.”
As we approach the holidays, these issues are extremely important parts of our lives. We’ve all seen how one wrong thing said at a Christmas Eve dinner can blow-up a family event. Please, don’t remind me of some of our family disasters. 🙂 Focusing on positivity can help this holiday season to be one of your best ever.
The goal of my blog, YourPositivityCoach, is not only the result of my Doctoral studies at George Fox, its also to help you do exactly what’s discussed above: build a roadmap to success – based on scientific research – to help you release the kinds of things in your life that help you flourish. My commitment is to help you significantly impact the (5) areas of life that make the biggest impact on who you are and what you do: Positive emotions, Engagement, Positive Relationships, Meaning, and Vision.
Here’s to more positive emotions in your life and may the 2015 Christmas season be filled with amazing and cherished memories.
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