“Whatever your identity, background, or political ideology,” the authors advise young people, “you will be happier, healthier, stronger, and more likely to succeed in pursuing your own goals” if you do three things:
- Seek out challenges “rather than eliminating or avoiding everything that ‘feels unsafe.’”
- Free yourself from cognitive distortions “rather than always trusting your initial feelings.”
- Take a generous view of other people, and look for nuance, “rather than assuming the worst about people within a simplistic us-versus-them morality.”
The Last thing we need in this country is another reason for democracy to be threatened. Talking about the fragile stuff realizing that this is a new generation, the millennials stop in 1994. No, we’re into the new generation call the generation which they are even more fragile.
Jonathan says that “Kids born after 1995 thy don’t have a driver’s license, they don’t drink as much they don’t go out on dates, they don’t have sex as much, what are they doing? there are sitting at home on their devices talking with each other and this seems to be changing social development and we know this is not just some perception from outsiders because the rates of anxiety disorders depression self-cutting where they have to be admitted to hospitals and suicide all of this rates are way up, especially for girls and it all begins right around 2011 and so it’s when this generation 1st Pinterest college campuses and 2013 that’s when all this new attitude about speech comes in”
Another reason that they’re sitting home instead of doing all those fun things is that the parents insist on watching them all the time. I’ve heard that the kids don’t have to ever face any difficulties how can that kid function in the real world? He goes on to say that “the most important psychological idea in the book is antifragility that there are some things that are fragile like a wine glass if you not get over it breaks nothing good happens so if something is plastic knock it over it…”
Today, society enjoys advances that until relatively recently we would not have imagined. We are more connected than ever, more informed than ever, we have more possibilities than ever, and yet it seems that despite all this, each generation that passes undergoes more mental disorders than the previous one.
American Psychological Association
And it is that a new study of the American Psychological Association has concluded that the vast majority of young people belonging to Generation Z, suffer more stress, anxiety, and other disorders compared to previous generations. At first, one might think that perhaps, this is only the case in the United States, where the study was conducted, but this idea cannot be further from the truth.
A very similar study was carried out in Great Britain, and the results they obtained were very similar. In this case, they discovered that among Generation Z it was especially anxiety that had arisen in the indices. In Spain, a seminar was held this summer, “Millennials and Generation Z. The Invisible Depression.” It highlighted that at least 20% of young people had suffered a depressive disorder before the age of 18 and that there is indeed a significant increase in the number of people with these types of problems although it is not yet known why.
I am very interested in the subject of anxiety, especially since 3 of my children are victims of anxiety. The three respond in different ways. My oldest daughter is only 21 years old but at the age of 19, she had trouble sleeping, very worried, depressed and always anxious. The other since very young until today at 17 years straggles with many problems of paranoid, anxiety and inappropriate behaviors in social media and my son of only 16 years of age, also with many social issues. He has no friends at school but is well connected in videogames and social networks.
Therefore Jonathan asked the question are “Good and bad ideas are setting up a generation for failure? And challenges us to consider how we should raise kids. Who wants their kid to fall down a staircase nobody so let’s protect our kids let’s keep them safe really safe if somewhat safe is good very safe is better let’s wrapped in bubble wrap let’s help them out we don’t want them to have a bad day will do things for them. You want to help them but if you do this if you help your kids all the time if you keep them safe and protect them from danger and help them out when they’re in trouble they don’t learn to do it for themselves they don’t become antifragile you take a naturally antifragile kid and he or she will end up fragile. She or he will end up fragile and you can’t stop if you’ve been doing it through elementary school in middle school you have to keep doing it through high school and then college, this is so obviously a bad idea I mean… prepare your child for the road not the road for your child ”.
I do not try to contradict the author but my children do not fully fit everything he says about anxiety, on the contrary, the 4 are very capable of handling their challenges in the best possible way. And still managed to achieve many things at their young age. However, I dare to say that the grace of God sustains them. The faith that has been instilled in them is strong and it activates in their lives in the most difficult times of their lives.
Jonathan and Greg Lukianoff. The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure. London: Penguin, 2018.