{"id":5169,"date":"2015-05-30T18:15:17","date_gmt":"2015-05-31T01:15:17","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dminlgp\/?p=5169"},"modified":"2015-05-30T18:15:17","modified_gmt":"2015-05-31T01:15:17","slug":"avoiding-chua-style-parenting","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dlgp\/avoiding-chua-style-parenting\/","title":{"rendered":"Avoiding Chua style parenting"},"content":{"rendered":"

I must admit that I did not get a lot out of this week\u2019s reading. Amy Chua had some good points in her book, Battle Hymn Of The Tiger Mother<\/em>[1]<\/a>. I agree with her that you should hold your children to high standards.<\/p>\n

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Chua stated that, \u201cthe Chinese mother believes that:<\/p>\n

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  1. Schoolwork always comes first<\/li>\n
  2. An A-minus is a bad grade<\/li>\n
  3. Your children must be two years ahead of their classmates in math<\/li>\n
  4. You must never compliment your children in public<\/li>\n
  5. If your child ever disagrees with the teacher or coach, you must always take the side of teacher or coach<\/li>\n
  6. The only activities your children should be permitted to do are those in which they can eventually win a medal and that medal must be gold.[2]<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

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    American parents would benefit their children if they employed some of the strategies that Asian cultures use to motivate their kids, such as limiting TV, video games, and too many school activities that are not beneficial to their education or well being.<\/p>\n

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    My problem with how Chua raised her children is that it did not foster self-esteem or emotional well being, nor is it biblically focused. I will agree that it appears that she did follow the principle of Proverbs 23:13-14, \u201cDo not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish them with the rod, they will not die. Punish them with the rod and save them from death.\u201d However, discipline is only one a small part in raising a child, and God only used it to correct behavior or punish sin. Chua used discipline to instill fear into her children and force them to comply with her way.<\/p>\n

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    Chua stated that you should always side with the teacher or coach over your children. [3]<\/a> In my opinion and personal experience, the teacher is not always right. In fifth grade, my son\u2019s teacher did not treat him fairly and seemed to be out to get him. She picked on him and lied to us about his schoolwork and was overall not a nice person to him. So, always siding with the teacher is not only wrong it can be harmful to the child. Today, my son is in high school and has brought up the fact that his Mom and Dad had to take care of that teacher that was mean to him. We have instilled that we are family, and as such we protect each other. This doesn\u2019t mean we don\u2019t check out the situation and let our children pull the wool over our eyes, but it means we get to know our children well enough to know when others aren\u2019t being truthful about them.<\/p>\n

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    As far as I am concerned, Chua\u2019s views were predisposed towards the way she wants to do things. Just because you get results with the way you do something, does not make it the best way to achieve your goal. God created each one of us different, and it is this difference that should be cherished and encouraged in our children.<\/p>\n

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    [1]<\/a> Amy Chua,\u00a0Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother<\/em> (New York: Penguin Books, 2011).<\/p>\n

    [2]<\/a> Amy Chua,\u00a0Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother<\/em> (New York: Penguin Books, 2011) p. 5<\/p>\n

    [3]<\/a> Amy Chua,\u00a0Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother<\/em> (New York: Penguin Books, 2011) p. 5Chua<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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