As leaders, we have learned the importance of staying in the room, hearing all sides of an issue.\u00a0 We have also learned the importance of knowing and understanding the culture that surrounds us. In this post I am going to discuss sexuality and how I present the various voices and aspects of sexuality to my Christian university students allowing them to begin to understand the culture and hopefully stay in the room.<\/p>\n
God created sex, but man has spent thousands of years distorting it. Jeff Myers writes \u201cThe seeds of the sexual revolution were planted during the Age of Enlightenment, when the church began to be viewed as a barrier to societal advancement.\u201d[1]<\/a> Yet, one only has to read a few chapters into the book of Genesis to discover that the sexual revolution has existed for thousands of years (Sodom and Gomorrah, Lot\u2019s daughters, the rape of Dinah, temple prostitutes, Potipher\u2019s wife\u2019s attempted seduction of Joseph).[2]<\/a> The sexual revolution may have been somewhat held at bay by Christian ethics and culture, but \u201cany constraint on sexual impulses was unnatural\u201d and it re-emerged in the 1900\u2019s.[3]<\/a><\/p>\n Despite the warnings found in Song of Songs \u201cYoung women of Jerusalem, I charge you by the gazelles and the wild does of the field, do not stir up or awaken love until the appropriate time,\u201d our culture seems to do everything it can to ignore the warning.[4]<\/a> Sexuality is plastered on billboards, magazine covers, and television\/movies.\u00a0 Jean Kilbourne in a TedTalk discusses and provides visual examples of the ways the media sexualizes both men and women.[5]<\/a> Showing this video in class I have been accused of showing students soft porn. Internet pornography is a multibillion-dollar industry with the website OnlyFans<\/em> reporting $7.22 billion income in 2024.[6]<\/a> Pornography usage is my NPO: <\/span><\/p>\n Christian Universities have students who struggle with a habit of viewing pornography impacting current and future relationships, with self, others, and God.<\/em>\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n Because sexuality is so prevalent in our culture, the church needs to be well informed on the topic, hearing people speak for and against the various sexual behaviors.\u00a0 But this is a topic on which I believe the church on a weekly basis is silent.\u00a0 How many church potlucks have you been to where topics of sexuality were discussed?\u00a0 In my teaching I try to educate my students on issues related to sexuality and gender, issues that I have had to wrestle with over the years. The last two weeks of my Cultural and Human Diversity class are devoted to these two topics. Before diving in on topics of sexuality, I preface my talk by stating that I am not advocating for anything that goes against the Nazarene values the university is founded upon, but as future mental health workers it is important that you are aware of these behaviors so that your jaw does not drop to the floor when the person(s) in front of you opens up about their sexual practices. I discuss the following topics, same-sex attraction (SSA), sex work, consensual non-monogamous relationships (polyamory, swinging, and open relationships, friends with benefits, hooking up), pornography and sexting, sex dolls and sex robots, and bestiality.<\/p>\n To help students process this topic, I present information from a variety of perspectives. When talking about same-sex attraction (SSA) I play an interview that Preston Sprinkle did with Dr. Lisa Diamond, a lesbian who has spent her career studying SSA.[7]<\/a> She discusses the genetic component of SSA and how both nature and nurture can influence its emergence. Dr. Diamond also discusses the fluid nature she has found in sexuality where people with SSA will fluctuate between being strictly gay\/lesbian and bi-sexual.<\/p>\n When I discuss sex work, I start out discussing sex trafficking citing statistics from the Polaris Project and the psychological and physical trauma that sex workers endure.[8]<\/a> But then I move on to discuss volunteer sex work, legal and illegal.\u00a0 I show a clip from a YouTube channel \u201cAsk a Sex Worker\u201d in which Alice answers questions people leave in the comment section of her channel.[9]<\/a> In this episode Alice discusses working with mental health workers to provide nonjudgemental services to the various brothel\u2019s sex workers. I then show them an interview with a Blind Prostitute, who discusses how she got into the work and her enjoyment in being a prostitute.[10]<\/a> I also discuss interviews from sex workers discussing the benefits of utilizing the services of a sex worker.[11]<\/a> Nicole Emma states that \u201con average sex only lasts 5.4 minutes,\u201d and asks the question, \u201cwhat do you do for the rest of the time?\u201d[12]<\/a> Emma and other sex workers discuss that time spent with them allows the individual to feel normal and can even be healing.[13]<\/a> These are ideas that most of my students and prior to teaching this class, I have never considered.<\/p>\n When discussing polyamory, I show a video of a throuple who discuss being asked to leave a church due to the church\u2019s conservative values yet finding acceptance in another church.[14]<\/a> They even talk about how the one woman in the relationship did not conceive until she started exploring her lesbian side suggesting that God opened her womb only after she fully embraced who she was sexually.<\/p>\n Most of the students in my class know the evangelical Christian teachings regarding sexuality that espouse no sex until marriage, and that marriage consists of one man and one woman. In a world where the sexual revolution is going strong and consists of many different voices, I intentionally provide the students with information that might contradict the ideas and beliefs that they have been taught. I need them to construct their own, not their parents, map regarding sexuality and its expression. I also need them to consider how they are going to help a client deal with sexual issues that contradict their (the student) own map. I still hold conservative values regarding sexual ethics, but I\u2019ve enjoyed hearing voices from the other side as they have challenged me to consider why I hold onto my beliefs.<\/p>\n [1]<\/a> Jeff Myers, Understanding the Culture: A Survey of Social Engagement<\/em>, (Manitou Springs, CO: Summit Ministries, 2017), 229.<\/p>\n [2]<\/a> Genesis 19, 34, 38, 39 (Christian Standard Bible).<\/p>\n [3]<\/a> Myers, 229.<\/p>\n [4]<\/a> Song of Songs 3:5.<\/p>\n [5]<\/a> Jean Kilbourne, \u201cThe dangerous ways ads see women,\u201d\u00a0 TedX Talks, Easton, PA, May 9, 2014, 15 min, 50 sec,\u00a0 https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=Uy8yLaoWybk&t=1s<\/a><\/p>\n [6]<\/a> Todd Spangler, \u201cOnlyFans 2024 Financials: Gross Revenue $7.2 Billion, up 9%,\u201d Variety<\/em>, August 22, 2025, https:\/\/variety.com\/2025\/digital\/news\/onlyfans-fiscal-2024-revenue-earnings-1236495750\/<\/a><\/p>\n [7]<\/a> Preston Sprinkle, \u201c#859- Sexual Orientation, Sexual Fluidity, and the \u2018Born this Way\u2019 Myth: Dr. Lisa Diamond,\u201d Produced by Preston Sprinkle, Theology in the Raw, May 7, 2021, 1:09:35.\u00a0 https:\/\/theologyintheraw.com\/podcast\/859-sexual-orientation-sexual-fluidity-and-the-born-this-way-myth-dr-lisa-diamond\/<\/a><\/p>\n [8]<\/a> Polaris, \u201cPolaris-Analysis-of-2021-Data-from-the-National-Human-Trafficking-Hotline.pdf,\u201d \u00a0accessed on October 15, 2025, https:\/\/polarisproject.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/07\/Polaris-Analysis-of-2021-Data-from-the-National-Human-Trafficking-Hotline.pdf<\/a>; Stotts jr. and Ramey, \u201cHuman Trafficking: A Call for Counselor Awareness and Action, \u201cJournal\u00a0of Humanistic Counseling, Education, and Development<\/em>, 48, Spring 2009.<\/p>\n [9]<\/a> Alice Little, \u201cAsk a Sex Worker \u2013 Mental Health in the Brothels,\u201d February 22, 2020, YouTube, https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=8DzM3kCqAjc<\/a> (not available anymore)<\/p>\n [10]<\/a> Soft White Underbelly, \u201cBlind Prostitute interview-Nautica,\u201d September 28, 2021, YouTube,\u00a0\u00a0 https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=fvetzM-17-o<\/a><\/p>\n [11]<\/a>Emma, \u201cWhat a Sex Worker Can Teach us About Human Connection, \u00a0TED Talk, Salt Lake City, September 2018, 12:36, https:\/\/www.ted.com\/talks\/nicole_emma_what_a_sex_worker_can_teach_us_about_human_connection<\/a>; Matthews, \u201cSex Workers Offer Intimacy and Connection for Disabled Clients in the Age of the Dating App,\u201d ABC News\u00a0 https:\/\/www.abc.net.au\/news\/2018-07-12\/disability-sexuality-intimacy-connection-modern-dating\/9931480<\/a>; Little, \u201cMore Than Sex \u2013 Coffee With Alice Little, YouTube, https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=YV8IN4e68KE<\/a> (not available anymore)<\/p>\n [12]<\/a> Emma,<\/p>\n [13]<\/a> Emma; Little; Matthews.<\/p>\n [14<\/a>] Love\u00a0Don\u2019t Judge, \u201cBeing Polyamorous and Christian Is Not a Sin,\u201d Produced by Martha Hewett, Ruby Coote, YouTube, November 16, 2022, 7:32, \u00a0https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=7D1fFDdL_wQ<\/a><\/p>\n <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" As leaders, we have learned the importance of staying in the room, hearing all sides of an issue.\u00a0 We have also learned the importance of knowing and understanding the culture that surrounds us. 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Same Sex Attraction<\/span><\/h4>\n
Sex Work<\/span><\/h4>\n
Polyamory<\/span><\/h4>\n