{"id":37626,"date":"2024-04-18T15:10:50","date_gmt":"2024-04-18T22:10:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dlgp\/?p=37626"},"modified":"2024-04-18T15:10:50","modified_gmt":"2024-04-18T22:10:50","slug":"this-is-us-the-dlgp02","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dlgp\/this-is-us-the-dlgp02\/","title":{"rendered":"This Is Us. . . The DLGP02"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cWhat makes embracing vulnerability feel the most terrifying is how taking off the armor and exploding our hearts can open us up to experiencing shame.\u00a0 Our egos are willing to keep our hearts encased in armor, no matter the cost if we can avoid feeling \u201cless than\u201d or unworthy of love and belonging.\u00a0 What the ego doesn\u2019t understand is that stunting our emotional growth and shutting down our vulnerability doesn\u2019t protect us from shame, disconnection, and isolation, it guarantees them. [1]<\/span><\/p>\n

Our cohort has become a part of my \u201csquare squad\u201d. [2] This semester we have shared stories of choosing courage over comfort and I would imagine if we laid it all out there, many of us would say that our doctoral journey has been a process of choosing courage, often sacrificing comfort.\u00a0 I love the time that we share each week in our weekly chats and our interactions through the blog posts and WhatsApp.\u00a0 I often come \u201cscreeching\u201d into our Zoom chats from all sorts of locations within the school building (because of contractual time constraints) wishing I could get there earlier to enjoy more of the pregame chatter.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

THE DLGP02 is a group of leaders who dare greatly by being vulnerable each week through interactions, blog posts, and messages.\u00a0 It is our strength.\u00a0 We authentically share our questions, struggles, and areas of personal growth. Simon Walker highlighted the significance of letting go of ego-driven desires for control and recognition advocating for leaders to embrace their vulnerability, recognizing that it is through authenticity and a willingness to risk their own status and security that they can make a lasting impact on their organizations and communities. [3]\u00a0 Our vulnerability has been our strength.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

In my opinion, we function similarly to what Marcus Warner and Jim Wilder refer to in the book <\/span>Rare Leadership<\/span><\/i>, when they write,\u00a0 \u201cIf you are committed to building the fast-track habits you need in order to become a rare leader, it is important to identify which skills you are lacking, which requires a measure of humility, and find people in your circle who have those skills. [4]\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, as I wrap up year two of this journey, the DLGP02 has dispelled several of the myths about vulnerability as outlined in Brene Brown\u2019s book, <\/span>Dare to Lead. <\/span><\/i>\u00a0 Has anyone<\/span>\u00a0ever watched MythBusters?\u00a0 <\/span>The show’s original hosts, special effects experts Adam Savage and Jamie Hyneman, used elements of the scientific method to test the validity of rumors, myths, movie scenes, adages, Internet videos, and news stories. [5]\u00a0 When they were \u201cin season\u201d, I caught several episodes.\u00a0 I enjoyed watching the two of them use the scientific method to attempt and \u201cbust\u201d existing myths.\u00a0 Does that hat Jamie is wearing remind you of anyone in our group?\u00a0 Brown shared several myths about vulnerability that our group has simply \u201cBUSTED\u201d.<\/span><\/p>\n

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MythBuster#1:\u00a0 Vulnerability has been a strength.\u00a0 Each week the group shows up, sacrificing numerous other commitments to engage in dialogue to sharpen each other.<\/span><\/p>\n

MythBuster #2: We DO vulnerability.\u00a0 Have you heard the stories of frustration, confusion, and discouragement shared?<\/span><\/p>\n

MythBuster #3:\u00a0 We CAN\u2019T go it alone.\u00a0 We reach out to one another outside of our \u201cassigned\u201d class times.<\/span><\/p>\n

MythBuster #4:\u00a0 Vulnerability is uncomfortable and can\u2019t be engineered out. Again, it is a strength.<\/span><\/p>\n

MythBuster #5:\u00a0 How many marbles have been put in your jar? (Building trust before vulnerability; through listening, paying attention, and showing genuine care to each other) [5]<\/span><\/p>\n

MythBuster #6:\u00a0 Safe containers exist with boundaries.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Dare to Lead <\/span><\/i>by Bren\u00e9 Brown is a transformative book that delves into the essential qualities of effective leadership in today’s complex world. In the book, she outlines four leadership qualities that she proposes are crucial for daring leadership: rumbling with vulnerability, living into one\u2019s values, BRAVING trust (Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Vault (keeping confidences), Integrity, Non-judgment, and Generosity), and learning to rise (cultivating resilience).<\/span><\/p>\n

Brown, a renowned researcher on vulnerability, courage, and empathy, argues that true leadership is not about titles or power but about the courage to show up, be seen, and dare to lead with authenticity.\u00a0 As I was reading the book, flashbacks of our cohort chats and Advance Meetups in South Africa and London came to mind specifically when reading Part One:\u00a0 Rumbling with Vulnerability.\u00a0 Several years ago I attended a Catalyst conference in Atlanta, Georgia, where I first heard Brene Brown speak on the concept of vulnerability and the myths (which were four back then).<\/span><\/p>\n

Could the shared vulnerability that exists in the DLGP02 be a part of what J.R. Woodward refers to when he stated in his book, <\/span>The Scandal of Leadership<\/span><\/i>,\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cIf we want to move from the domain of death to the domain of life, we must adopt a new\u00a0<\/span>mindset, which will require us first realizing <\/span>that if we try to construct our identity in\u00a0<\/span>competition with others, we will lose it. We will live as fragmented, anxious people.\u00a0<\/span>However, if we die to this way of constructing a sense of self and give ourselves to God\u00a0<\/span>and others, we will find that our sense of self becomes integrated, we can become our\u00a0<\/span>true selves in God.\u201d [7]<\/span><\/p>\n

This is us. . . the DLGP02, an empathetic group of leaders taking off the armor and embracing vulnerability as we head into Year 3.<\/span><\/p>\n

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[1] Brown, Bren\u00e9. <\/span>Dare to Lead<\/span><\/i>, (New York: Random House, 2018), 119.<\/span><\/p>\n

[2] Ibid, 22.<\/span><\/p>\n

[3] Walker, Simon, <\/span>Leading Out of Who You Are:\u00a0 Discovering the Secrets of Undefended\u00a0<\/span><\/i>Leadership<\/span><\/i>, (Carlisle, CA3 9GR, UK:\u00a0 Piquant Editions Ltd., 2007), 2.<\/span><\/p>\n

[4] Warner, Marcus, and Jim Wilder. <\/span>Rare Leadership:\u00a0 4 Uncommon Habits for Increasing Trust,\u00a0<\/span><\/i>Joy, and Engagement in the People You Lead<\/span><\/i>, (Chicago, IL:\u00a0 Moody Publishers), 111.<\/span><\/p>\n

[5] <\/span>https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/MythBusters<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

[6] Brown, 32.<\/span><\/p>\n

[7] <\/span>Woodward, J. R., David Fitch, and Amos Yong. <\/span>The Scandal of Leadership: Unmasking the\u00a0<\/span><\/i>Powers of Domination in the Church<\/span><\/i>. Cody, WY:\u00a0 100 Movements Publishing, 2023, 260.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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