{"id":36021,"date":"2024-02-21T08:42:09","date_gmt":"2024-02-21T16:42:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dlgp\/?p=36021"},"modified":"2024-02-21T08:42:09","modified_gmt":"2024-02-21T16:42:09","slug":"rare-leadership-habits-of-the-heart","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dlgp\/rare-leadership-habits-of-the-heart\/","title":{"rendered":"Rare Leadership Habits of the Heart"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"c7\" style=\"text-align: center\"><em>\u201c<span class=\"c6\">In the same way, our character\u2013including our relational and emotional skills\u2013is built around those habits, and\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"c1 c6\">our good character and relational skills show up before we even think about them<\/span>.\u201d<sup><a id=\"ftnt_ref1\" href=\"#ftnt1\">[1]<\/a><\/sup><\/em><\/p>\n<ul class=\"c13 lst-kix_1ugycpu0g1er-0 start\">\n<li class=\"c7 c11 li-bullet-0\"><span class=\"c3\">Ravi Zacharias charged: serious sexual misconduct going back years in his ministry.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"c7 c11 li-bullet-0\"><span class=\"c3\">Jim Baker swindled millions of dollars from his followers.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"c7 c11 li-bullet-0\"><span class=\"c3\">What about Jimmy Swaggart?<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"c7 c11 li-bullet-0\"><span class=\"c3\">Or Tullian Tchividjian?<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"c7 c11 li-bullet-0\"><span class=\"c3\">Even Bill Hybels.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"c7 c11 li-bullet-0\"><span class=\"c3\">The Rise and Fall of Mars Hill and Mark Driscoll.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"c7 c11 li-bullet-0\"><span class=\"c3\">More recently, Aaron Ivey, married to popular podcaster, Jamie Ivey, fired from Austin Stone Community Church accused of sexual exploitation with adult and minor males dating back to 2011.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p class=\"c7\">Associate Professor of Interdisciplinary Humanities at Wake Forest University, Michael Lamb looks at all of this, combined with the Character Project,<sup><a id=\"ftnt_ref2\" href=\"#ftnt2\">[2]<\/a><\/sup>\u00a0as a researcher dedicated to exploring character and leadership.<sup><a id=\"ftnt_ref3\" href=\"#ftnt3\">[3]<\/a><\/sup><span class=\"c3\">\u00a0Their research examines how leadership and character are developed among college and professional students, helping them to equip other institutions and businesses to educate leaders of character in their own contexts. One question the researchers ask is, \u201cIs it possible to develop our character by emulating role models or exemplars?\u201d \u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\">As I read\u00a0<em><span class=\"c6\">Rare Leadership: 4 Uncommon Habits For Increasing Trust, Joy, and Engagement in the People You Lead<\/span><\/em>\u00a0and<span class=\"c6\">\u00a0<em>Rare Leadership in the Workplace: Four Uncommon Habits that Improve Focus, Engagement, and Productivity<\/em><\/span><span class=\"c3\">\u00a0by Marcus Warner and Jim Wilder, I am faced with the question that haunts each of us from one time or another: Does Christ-like character only take root in certain personalities and not others? Must Christianity be formed in only those for whom it works based on their DNA? And, based on the list of Christian leaders who lived part of their lives in broken isolation, what role do habits truly play in our character?<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\"><strong><span class=\"c12 c1\">What Role Does Personality Play in Our Character?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"c16\">I find it helpful to remember how James Clear, author of\u00a0<em><span class=\"c6\">Atomic Habits: Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results<\/span><\/em><span class=\"c3\"><em>\u00a0<\/em>highlights the most proven scientific analysis of personality traits known as the \u201cBig Five.\u201d Broken down into five spectrums of behavior they are as follows:<\/span><\/p>\n<ol class=\"c13 lst-kix_efe5fqtad1yt-0 start\" start=\"1\">\n<li class=\"c7 c14 li-bullet-0\"><strong><span class=\"c1\">Openness to experience<\/span><\/strong><span class=\"c3\">: from curious and inventive on one end to cautious and consistent to the other.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"c7 c14 li-bullet-0\"><span class=\"c1\"><strong>Conscientiousness<\/strong>:<\/span><span class=\"c3\">\u00a0organized and efficient to easygoing and spontanseous.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"c7 c14 li-bullet-0\"><strong><span class=\"c1\">Extroversion<\/span><\/strong><span class=\"c3\">: outgoing and energetic to solitary and reserved.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"c7 c14 li-bullet-0\"><strong><span class=\"c1\">Agreeableness<\/span><\/strong><span class=\"c3\">: friendly and compassionate to challenging and detached.<\/span><\/li>\n<li class=\"c7 c14 li-bullet-0\"><strong><span class=\"c1\">Neuroticism<\/span><\/strong>: Anxious and sensitive to confident, calm, and stable.<sup><a id=\"ftnt_ref4\" href=\"#ftnt4\">[4]<\/a><\/sup><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p class=\"c7\">Again, I find it helpful to frame our discussions on character, leadership and habits around these 5 personality types knowing we are each designed uniquely.<\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\"><strong><span class=\"c12 c1\">What Role Do Habits Truly Play in Our Character?<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\">According to Warner and Wilder, \u201cThe fruit of 4 uncommon habits related to emotional intelligence is a dramatic increase in trust, joy, and engagement in the people you lead.\u201d<sup><a id=\"ftnt_ref5\" href=\"#ftnt5\">[5]<\/a><\/sup><span class=\"c3\">\u00a0The driving question of how to stay relational and continue to act like ourselves, like the person God made us to be, during suffering, weaves in and out of each chapter with the acronym: R.A.R.E.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\"><strong><span class=\"c1\">R<\/span><span class=\"c3\">emain Relational<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\"><strong><span class=\"c1\">A<\/span><span class=\"c3\">ct Like Yourself<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\"><strong><span class=\"c1\">R<\/span><span class=\"c3\">eturn to Joy<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\"><strong><span class=\"c1\">E<\/span><span class=\"c3\">ndure Hardship Well.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\">Because Jim Wilder is a clinical psychologist, we learn again about brain science with the Slow and Fast tracks, reminding us of Kahneman\u2019s System 1 and System 2 thinking. System 1 thinking is automatic and involuntary while System 2 thinking is slow, effortful and deliberate.<sup><a id=\"ftnt_ref6\" href=\"#ftnt6\">[6]<\/a><\/sup>\u00a0Where I see one qualifying difference (correct me if I\u2019m wrong), is Warner and Wilder claim our Fast Track thinking regulates our emotions. Whereas Kahneman says our System 1 thinking often makes mistakes and is impulsive. Either way, what is fascinating is that Joy, Identity and mutual-mind states run in the brain\u2019s fast track while consciousness runs in our slow-track. When the right and left side of the brain are working well together at different speeds, we know our identity before we think about the world around us.<sup><a id=\"ftnt_ref7\" href=\"#ftnt7\">[7]<\/a><\/sup><span class=\"c3\">\u00a0 And this all takes place no matter our personality trait. (Would you agree or not?)<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\"><span class=\"c3\">How might the Slow track and Fast track of Systems 1 &amp; 2 hold hope for leaders? In working with leaders recently, I see three frameworks for habits.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\" style=\"text-align: center\"><strong><span class=\"c1 c12\">The Habit of Humility<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\">If our relational identity is the primary interest of the fast track, it serves leaders best if the core of who we are pursues humility\u2013no matter personality type. \u00a0In this way, self importance and self promotion can stop masking who we truly are and we can act like ourselves. Richard Foster and Brenda Quinn spoke on the Trinity Forum<sup><a id=\"ftnt_ref8\" href=\"#ftnt8\">[8]<\/a><\/sup><span class=\"c3\">\u00a0of what it means to lead with humility. \u00a0\u201cWe learn to become the servant of all and that is how we lead\u2013we learn the lives of people. We listen to people without domination and arrogance. Humility is learning from other people.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\">Without knowing the childhood stories of the Christian leaders named above, it seems their executive functions weren\u2019t looking for Joy as the book defines it but were looking for Joy\u2019s imposter that amplified their fantasy relationships and identity. \u00a0When life got hard, these leaders were motivated by self-importance and self-promotion. Warner and Wilder would call them immature leaders. Conversely, Simon Walker writes that mature (or mobile leaders) have an inner security and personal freedom,<sup><a id=\"ftnt_ref9\" href=\"#ftnt9\">[9]<\/a><\/sup><span class=\"c3\">\u00a0whose capacity to do so grows from a habit of humility.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\" style=\"text-align: center\"><strong><span class=\"c12 c1\">The Habit of Healing<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\"><em>\u201cWithout healing, the brain cannot be trained. \u00a0Without training, the brain often cannot recover<\/em>.\u201d<sup><a id=\"ftnt_ref10\" href=\"#ftnt10\">[10]<\/a><\/sup><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\">Our conscious thought (the Slow Track) obsesses about problems, amplifying them through our experiences. When I talk with leaders, what I hear most often is that they feel emotionally and physically overwhelmed. At lunch with an executive leader last week, I asked her if she ever worked for a Protector leader\u2013someone with a well-trained set of fast-track habits. Her response was that the more she moves up, the less she finds joyful identity in leaders. And, she admitted, how that quality steals joy and belonging to the group. \u00a0Might this be what sets\u00a0<span class=\"c6\">Rare Leadership<\/span>\u00a0slightly apart from Kahneman\u2019s\u00a0<span class=\"c6\">Thinking Fast and Slow\u00a0<\/span>and Simon Walker\u2019s the\u00a0<span class=\"c6\">Undefended Leader?<\/span>\u00a0There\u2019s an underlying emphasis on group identity, group responses to weaknesses which lead to healing.<sup><a id=\"ftnt_ref11\" href=\"#ftnt11\">[11]<\/a><\/sup><span class=\"c3\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\" style=\"text-align: center\"><strong><span class=\"c12 c1\">Humility Leads to Healing<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\"><span class=\"c6\">\u201c<em>Leadership involves developing a powerfully flexible and relational brain together with the ability to develop the same identity in our group. Leadership involves training skills and repatterning existing group responses.<\/em>\u201d<\/span><sup class=\"c6\"><a id=\"ftnt_ref12\" href=\"#ftnt12\">[12]<\/a><\/sup><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\"><span class=\"c3\">In talking about our brains, Warner and Wilder explain that both tracks have very flexible, slow, gray matter. However, white matter takes longer to develop, is two hundred times faster, and is built when we do things repeatedly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c7\">In thinking about my NPO research project,<span class=\"c6\">\u00a0<em>Leading With Humility<\/em><\/span>, I am trying to work out how I can chip away slowly at our current leadership crisis of current and emerging leaders lacking support. \u00a0What I am learning from books like this is that habits, repeated over the years, help white matter build. When this happens, the brain rapidly flexes to all sorts of situations.\u00a0 I believe humility and healing go hand in hand for all personality types&#8211;it&#8217;s an openhandedness, a willingness to receive what one doesn&#8217;t have yet. Can humility be a habit? Might this bring a deeper healing for the Church, our organizations and families to discover new ways of healing?<\/p>\n<hr class=\"c15\" \/>\n<div>\n<p class=\"c4\"><a id=\"ftnt1\" href=\"#ftnt_ref1\">[1]<\/a><span class=\"c10\">\u00a0Warner, Marcus, and Jim Wilder.\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"c6 c10\">Rare Leadership in the Workplace: Four Uncommon Habits That Improve Focus, Engagement, and Productivity<\/span><span class=\"c0\">. Chicago: Northfield Publishing, 2021.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c4 c8\">\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p class=\"c4\"><a id=\"ftnt2\" href=\"#ftnt_ref2\">[2]<\/a><span class=\"c10\">\u00a0The Oxford Character Project. \u201cResearch.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"c9\"><a class=\"c2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/oxfordcharacter.org\/research&amp;sa=D&amp;source=editors&amp;ust=1708536417186998&amp;usg=AOvVaw2W6rNKWI6t7t4nuD_gPmzD\">https:\/\/oxfordcharacter.org\/research<\/a><\/span><span class=\"c0\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c4 c8\">\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p class=\"c4\"><a id=\"ftnt3\" href=\"#ftnt_ref3\">[3]<\/a><span class=\"c10\">\u00a0The Program for Leadership and Character. \u201cOngoing Research.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"c9\"><a class=\"c2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/leadershipandcharacter.wfu.edu\/research-2\/grant-funded-research\/&amp;sa=D&amp;source=editors&amp;ust=1708536417186559&amp;usg=AOvVaw1GNp5EfUhTVmJuRlT-1IsD\">https:\/\/leadershipandcharacter.wfu.edu\/research-2\/grant-funded-research\/<\/a><\/span><span class=\"c0\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c4 c8\">\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p class=\"c4\"><a id=\"ftnt4\" href=\"#ftnt_ref4\">[4]<\/a><span class=\"c10\">\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"c3\">Clear, James. \u201cAtomic Habits: Tiny Changes, Remarkable Results\u202f: An Easy &amp; Proven Way to Build Good Habits &amp; Break Bad Ones.\u201d New York, New York: Avery, an imprint of Penguin Random House, 2018.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c4 c8\">\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p class=\"c4\"><a id=\"ftnt5\" href=\"#ftnt_ref5\">[5]<\/a><span class=\"c10\">\u00a0Warner, Marcus, and Jim Wilder.\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"c6 c10\">Rare Leadership in the Workplace<\/span><span class=\"c0\">. p.26<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p class=\"c4\"><a id=\"ftnt6\" href=\"#ftnt_ref6\">[6]<\/a><span class=\"c10\">\u00a0Groenewegen, Astrid. \u201cKahneman Fast and Slow Thinking: System 1 and 2 Explained by SUE.\u201d\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"c6 c10\">SUE | Behavioural Design Academy<\/span><span class=\"c10\">\u00a0(blog), October 17, 2018.<\/span><span class=\"c10\"><a class=\"c2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/suebehaviouraldesign.com\/kahneman-fast-slow-thinking\/&amp;sa=D&amp;source=editors&amp;ust=1708536417187558&amp;usg=AOvVaw1P6jEfSecJxngS9UaouZuq\">\u00a0<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c4 c8\">\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p class=\"c4\"><a id=\"ftnt7\" href=\"#ftnt_ref7\">[7]<\/a><span class=\"c0\">\u00a0P. 12 of Chapter 8<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p class=\"c4\"><a id=\"ftnt8\" href=\"#ftnt_ref8\">[8]<\/a><span class=\"c10\">\u00a0\u201cPodcasts | The Trinity Forum.\u201d Accessed February 20, 2024.<\/span><span class=\"c10\"><a class=\"c2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/www.ttf.org\/trinity-forum-conversations\/?mc_cid%3Dc42ed475fe%26mc_eid%3D85c2732081&amp;sa=D&amp;source=editors&amp;ust=1708536417187939&amp;usg=AOvVaw1FPpM18_XbbHRSYgAwt8sg\">\u00a0<\/a><\/span><span class=\"c9\"><a class=\"c2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.google.com\/url?q=https:\/\/www.ttf.org\/trinity-forum-conversations\/?mc_cid%3Dc42ed475fe%26mc_eid%3D85c2732081&amp;sa=D&amp;source=editors&amp;ust=1708536417188117&amp;usg=AOvVaw0GL9qUt8OtSwcmY6CMCLqa\">https:\/\/www.ttf.org\/trinity-forum-conversations\/?mc_cid=c42ed475fe&amp;mc_eid=85c2732081<\/a><\/span><span class=\"c0\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c4 c8\">\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p class=\"c4\"><a id=\"ftnt9\" href=\"#ftnt_ref9\">[9]<\/a><span class=\"c10\">\u00a0Walker, Simon P.\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"c6 c10\">Leading Out of Who You Are: Discovering the Secret of Undefended Leadership<\/span><span class=\"c0\">. Piquant Editions, 2007. \u00a0P. 137.<\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"c4 c8\">\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p class=\"c4\"><a id=\"ftnt10\" href=\"#ftnt_ref10\">[10]<\/a><span class=\"c10\">\u00a0Warner, Marcus and Jim Wilder.\u00a0<\/span><span class=\"c6 c10\">Rare Leadership<\/span><span class=\"c0\">. P. 35<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p class=\"c4\"><a id=\"ftnt11\" href=\"#ftnt_ref11\">[11]<\/a><span class=\"c0\">\u00a0P. 6 in Chapter 8.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<div>\n<p class=\"c4\"><a id=\"ftnt12\" href=\"#ftnt_ref12\">[12]<\/a><span class=\"c0\">\u00a0P. 12 in Chapter 7.<\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u201cIn the same way, our character\u2013including our relational and emotional skills\u2013is built around those habits, and\u00a0our good character and relational skills show up before we even think about them.\u201d[1] Ravi Zacharias charged: serious sexual misconduct going back years in his ministry. Jim Baker swindled millions of dollars from his followers. What about Jimmy Swaggart? 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