{"id":35775,"date":"2024-02-12T13:19:35","date_gmt":"2024-02-12T21:19:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dlgp\/?p=35775"},"modified":"2024-02-12T13:19:35","modified_gmt":"2024-02-12T21:19:35","slug":"simulated-pearls-and-an-unknown-apprenticeship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dlgp\/simulated-pearls-and-an-unknown-apprenticeship\/","title":{"rendered":"Simulated Pearls and an Unknown Apprenticeship"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a>The older I get the more I realize how smart my parents were. So much of what they did, and didn’t do, as parents, shaped and formed me into the person I am today. While they will admit, and I have come to realize, they are not perfect, but the positive role models of love, service, boundaries and perseverance that they modeled for me have shaped me in tremendous ways.<\/p>\n

Now, as a husband and father raising four kids with my incredible wife and leading a church of people seeking to follow the way of Jesus together, I realize the gifts I’ve been given, the pearls of leadership that have formed in me along the way and how the experiences I’ve had up to this point have shaped me into the leader I am today. I would agree with Poole, that leaders are made, not born. But I still feel I have a long way to go to be the leader that I want to be.<\/p>\n

So much of the template responses we have when we are afraid were learned. This was an important truth and new thought for me as I dove into Poole’s book and research on Leader-Smithing. Poole’s book gives practical tools for thinking about leadership and developing leaders. In a TED talk she gave in Durham<\/a> six years ago, she used the metaphor of pearls and leadership. She says, “you can’t have the beauty of pearls without the grit at their heart.” Its a powerful reminder that leadership is often learned through trials and peril but that beautiful things can come out of it. But so often I found myself looking for the path of least resistance or most clearest path, rather than opting for the grit and peril that might be necessary for my development.<\/p>\n

I’ve always been fascinated by leadership and the brain and how we can learn and unlearn certain responses in situations that dictate how we will act and lead. As someone who has pastored congregations through change and sought to empower and teach others to lead, learning how to navigate anxious systems or emotional responses is an important part of being an effective leader. What I’ve found is that attempting to be the least-anxious presence in the room can be one of the greatest gifts a leader can give the eco-system in which they lead in. Cultivating that non-anxious presence is important, hard, but necessary work that involves Emotional Intelligence, self-awareness and self-care and becoming familiar and comfortable in hard or difficult situations to realize that it will turn out ok in the long run.<\/p>\n

Charles Stone, author of\u00a0Brain Savvy Leader<\/em> suggests that one of the challenges of leadership is that we tend to crave dopamine more than we crave the satisfaction from overcoming obstacles or solving problems. He says in his article,\u00a0The Addiction Many Pastors Are Hooked On,<\/a><\/em>\u00a0that, “Dopamine gives us a nice feel good kick…causing us to want a greater and greater \u2018hit\u2019 to feel good. The chemical is involved in reward, motivation, and pleasure prompting us to seek out experiences that invoke it. We not only want it (the motivation) but we like it (the reward it brings).” While dopamine is an important, God-created part of our brains it has me thinking about how my desire for comfort or for feeling good might inhibit my ability to grow as a leader. As someone who is in an established role in a church it can be easy to become complacent and stop learning and growing and challenging those around me to learn and grow as well.<\/p>\n

Poole’s activities in the second half of her book have given me some great resources to draw from growing in my own leadership as well as helping others learn some of the basic tools and practices of leading. These activities can create, as Poole mentions in her Ted Talk, “Simulated Pearls” which create grit and leadership acumen for those wanting to learn, grow and understanding the poetry and the plumbing of leadership.<\/p>\n

A few years ago, our family had the opportunity to travel to Costa Rica for three weeks and explore various parts of the country. One of the places I wanted to see was the town of Sarchi where beautifully painted oxcarts have been made and used for the past 150 years. Our family visited Fabrica de Carretas Eloy Alfaro<\/a> and we got to explore these functional and beautiful pieces of art. The artists that learn how to paint these oxcarts must apprentice with certified painters for 7 years to learn this craft before they can strike out on their own. 7 years is a long time!<\/p>\n

When I asked the artist why they would paint something like an ox cart that is used for doing work, hard, dirty, gruesome jobs, he replied to me, “Why wouldn’t you make something beautiful that you use every day?” To me, it was the perfect reminder of leadership and the blend of art and function, beauty and mechanics.<\/p>\n

Poole’s book gives us the tools not just to excel at the mechanisms of leadership, but to reflect the beautiful diversity and complexity that comes from leading well.<\/p>\n

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