{"id":33816,"date":"2023-11-02T09:24:18","date_gmt":"2023-11-02T16:24:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dlgp\/?p=33816"},"modified":"2023-11-02T09:24:18","modified_gmt":"2023-11-02T16:24:18","slug":"maternal-sound","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dlgp\/maternal-sound\/","title":{"rendered":"Maternal Sound"},"content":{"rendered":"

During the opening plenary in Oxford, Dr. Clark spoke to the DLPG students about the body being a metaphor for learning. He highlighted how the sense of hearing is the last sense a person is to lose in their life.[1]\u00a0 If the sense of hearing is the last thing a person experiences, one of the first experiences a person has is hearing their mother. There is no escaping it, the womb holds a growing child and the first voice that a baby hears is their mother. In the book, <\/span>The Sound of Leadership,<\/span><\/i> Jules Glanzer explores the metaphor of voices, music, and sound to apprehend leadership. This exploration is a guided journey for the reader who is asked many questions, such as: \u201cWhen many voices are clamoring for your attention, how do you determine which voice to listen to? [2] He emphasizes the complexity of this by stating, \u201cthe majority voice, the loud voice, and the passionate voice \u2018are\u2019 not always the right voice.\u201d [3] I believe many would benefit from listening to the first voice God has given every human being. How has a mother\u2019s voice impacted their child? In my blog, I hope to champion women by recognizing the powerful voice they hold in their family\u2019s lives. I will further develop the metaphor of a mother\u2019s body (specifically her face and lap) and how her body communicates in powerful ways to her child.\u00a0\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Mother\u2019s Words<\/b><\/p>\n

Jules Glanzer recounts the day that he asked Jesus into his heart and running home to tell his grandmother, who responded by praying over him. Glanzer shares this experience, \u201cI do not remember what she prayed, but to this day I am convinced her prayer set the tone for my life that is still being answered today. From my perspective, my destiny as a person and a leader was set at that moment in time.\u201d[4] This is refreshing, hearing Glanzer praise his grandmother. Her voice meant a lot to him. Maria Tatar, author of <\/span>The Heroine With a 1,001 Faces,<\/span><\/i> would likely say this (woman\u2019s voice) was an exception as she reflects about popular literature: \u201cWomen may appear in the triumphant stories of a hero\u2019s deeds and accomplishments, but all too often they are strangely invisible, lacking agency, voices, and a presence in public life.\u201d[5]\u00a0 Making women visible and having their voices heard is an important practice.<\/span><\/p>\n

The words a woman chooses to let come out of her mouth is a matter of life and death to her home and to her family. Proverbs 14:1 imparts this message: The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down. E.B. White illustrates this well in the beloved story <\/span>Charlotte\u2019s Web<\/span><\/i>. Charlotte is described as one who not only encouraged Wilbur but saved her dear friend\u2019s life by weaving words in her web to describe Wilbur. \u201cCharlotte is no ordinary spider: she is an arachnid who knows how to do things with words. And she is an expert in the art of memorialization.\u201d\u00a0 She wields her authority in ways that transform Wilbur and ennoble him.\u201d [7]<\/span> Mother\u2019s have this ennobling power with their children, and this comes in the words that they choose. \u201cFor the mouth speaks what the heart is full of.\u201d (Luke 6:45)\u00a0 A child is influenced by the way his or her mother pays attention, by the words that come from her mouth.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mother\u2019s Face<\/b><\/p>\n

When a person looks at another person, the first thing they are searching for is eye contact.\u00a0 Having eye contact is important as it helps people connect. A mother spends hours gazing at her newborn, this bonding behavior is vital for a child. Eve Poole, in her book <\/span>Leader-Smithing<\/span><\/i>, states: \u201cOne of our deepest psychological needs is to feel significant, to feel seen.\u00a0 Eye contact saves words.\u00a0 Eye contact shows confidence and engagement, and lets the person know they are important to you.\u201d [6] A mother sometimes needs only to be silent and let her eyes do the communicating.<\/span><\/p>\n

Mother\u2019s Lap<\/b><\/p>\n

For a child, comfort is often experienced in being embraced, knowing the closeness of a mother\u2019s body by being held or welcomed on a mother\u2019s lap. This is a most desirable place to be. A child can hear the heartbeat of their mother and gain calm. I gained this by experience as my children sought this comfort from me.\u00a0 There are other noises Glanzer described which may or may not be wanted: \u201cFour types of noise are continuous noise, intermittent noise, impulsive noise, and low frequency noise.\u00a0 Some noises are unwanted, unpleasant, and disruptive. Others are welcome, soothing, and desirable. Our perception is the determining factor.\u201d[8] By welcoming a child onto a mother\u2019s lap, they are experiencing this welcoming, soothing, desirable noise.<\/span><\/p>\n

I have four children, they are 18 years and older, leaving me with an \u201cempty nest.\u201d In other words, my children are no longer in my lap or in need of my lap. My job is to release my children and I am embracing this definition of leadership: the act of influencing a group of people toward a preferred future. [9<\/span>] <\/span>I have always held this definition of leadership but I am appreciating the nuance that comes with preferring that my children pursue a future of independence versus dependence on me. This must be accomplished apart from my lap.<\/span><\/p>\n

Note: Nov 1, 2023 I had the opportunity to share these discoveries with a group of mother\u2019s.\u00a0 I titled my talk: Attuned Parenting: Getting in Sync with Ourselves and our Children. I enjoyed this opportunity and was overjoyed to connect with women who are seeking Jesus.<\/span><\/p>\n

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[1] Dr. Jason Clark, Plenary, September 20,2023, DLGP Oxford Advance.<\/span><\/p>\n

[2] Jules Glanzer, <\/span>The Sound of Leadership: Kingdom Notes to Fine Tune Your Life and Influence<\/span><\/i>, 2023, Plano: InvitePress, p.21<\/span><\/p>\n

[3] Ibid. p.20<\/span><\/p>\n

[4] Ibid. p.99<\/span><\/p>\n

[5] Maria Tatar, <\/span>The Heroine with 1,001 Faces<\/span><\/i>, 2021\u00a0 New York: Liveright Publishing Corp. p.xx<\/span><\/p>\n

[6] Eve Poole, <\/span>Leader-Smithing: Revealing the Trade Secrets of Leadership<\/span><\/i>, 2017, Norfolk: Bloomsbury. P.161<\/span><\/p>\n

[7] Maria Tatar, <\/span>The Heroine with 1,001 Faces<\/span><\/i>, 2021\u00a0 New York: Liveright Publishing Corp., p.49<\/span><\/p>\n

[8] Jules Glanzer, <\/span>The Sound of Leadership: Kingdom Notes to Fine Tune Your Life and Influence<\/span><\/i>, 2023, Plano: Invite Press., p.89<\/span><\/p>\n

[9] Ibid. p.37<\/span><\/p>\n

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