{"id":33360,"date":"2023-10-12T18:51:20","date_gmt":"2023-10-13T01:51:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dlgp\/?p=33360"},"modified":"2023-10-12T18:51:20","modified_gmt":"2023-10-13T01:51:20","slug":"sticky-love","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dlgp\/sticky-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Sticky Love"},"content":{"rendered":"

In the book, Rare Leadership: 4 Uncommon Habits for Increasing Trust, Joy, and Engagement in the People You Lead<\/em>, the co-authors Marcus Warner and Jim Wilder collaborate to write about maturity in leadership. [1] They have come up with the acronym R.A.R.E. to denote the four habits that will cause your emotional intelligence to “soar”, or grow. [2] The first R represents remaining relational. This deals with a person’s sense of belonging. [3] The letter A stands for acting like yourself. Some leaders, for instance, change their personalities with every emotion they feel. [4] This change in personality makes it difficult for those that are under this type of leader to know exactly who they are dealing with from day to day. A good leader controls their emotions, even under stress. [5] The second letter R represents a return to joy. [6] Joy is the fuel our brains want to operate on, as opposed to fear. [7] The final letter is E. This is enduring hardship well. [8] Another way to understand this letter is to think of using our hard times as a way to bring us closer together. [9]<\/p>\n

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My favorite of these four habits was the first one, belonging, or remaining relational. For the remainder of this blog, I would like to take a closer look at this habit. The authors shared a moving story about hesed<\/em> love in their book. The story was of a couple who spent time in a Nazi concentration camp many years before. They were older now. She had lost much of her memory, and sanity. He had not. Many people pressed him to put his wife in a home because she had become hard to handle. But he remembered the woman she used to be… a talented, renowned\u00a0 concert pianist. He still saw her this way. [10] He loved her with an enduring, “sticky” kind of love the Old Testament calls hesed<\/em> love. [11] I love that!<\/p>\n

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I well remember the woman my mother used be before she succumbed to Alzheimer’s disease. She was entertaining, talented, beautiful, and could light up a room with her stories or even just her laugh. She was generous to a fault. Alzheimer’s changed her personality. She lived with me the last eight years of her life, until the Lord took her home. Many people thought I should put her in a nursing home, especially when times were tough and she was hard to handle. But I remembered her… Her bright eyes and joyful, heartwarming laughter, and her gentle touch. And I kept her with me. She’s gone now, and I have no regrets. I would do it all again if I could. It was that sticky kind of love.<\/p>\n

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[1] Warner, Marcus, and Apollos Watered. “What Is Rare Leadership and Why Is It Important?” Premiumbeat.Com. December 30, 2022. Link<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

[2] Warner, Marcus, and E. James Wilder. Rare Leadership: 4 Uncommon Habits for Increasing Trust, Joy, and Engagement in the People You Lead<\/i>. Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2016, p.19.<\/p>\n

[3] Ibid, p.31.<\/p>\n

[4] Warner, Marcus, and Apollos Watered. “What Is Rare Leadership and Why Is It Important?” Premiumbeat.Com. December 30, 2022. Link<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

[5] Ibid.<\/p>\n

[6] Ibid, p.31.<\/p>\n

[7] Warner, Marcus, and Apollos Watered. “What Is Rare Leadership and Why Is It Important?” Premiumbeat.Com. December 30, 2022. Link<\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

[8] Warner, Marcus, and E. James Wilder. Rare Leadership: 4 Uncommon Habits for Increasing Trust, Joy, and Engagement in the People You Lead<\/i>. Chicago: Moody Publishers, 2016, p.19.<\/p>\n

[9] Ibid, p.31.<\/p>\n

[10] Ibid, p.135-136.<\/div>\n
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[11] Ibid, p.136.<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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