{"id":30300,"date":"2023-01-19T21:58:19","date_gmt":"2023-01-20T05:58:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dlgp\/?p=30300"},"modified":"2023-01-19T21:58:19","modified_gmt":"2023-01-20T05:58:19","slug":"the-treasure-of-a-good-friendship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dlgp\/the-treasure-of-a-good-friendship\/","title":{"rendered":"The Treasure of a Good Friendship"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I am sitting by the pool at the Polynesian Resort at Walt Disney World. Between winter storms, loss of power, evacuating, and migraines (due to the winter storms and stress), I did not get my post done prior to this trip. So here I am. Not a bad place to sit for a bit and get some work done. I am here with husband and my best friend. Kim and I realized that we have been friends for almost thirty years and reflecting back over those decades of friendship, I am awed at what the Lord has done. I can see elements in our friendship that Tom Camacho describes in his book, Mining for Gold.<\/em><\/p>\n

Camacho writes, \u201cLike Barnabas in the Bible, our role is to walk beside the leader we are helping.\u201d[1]<\/a> For the past three decades, Kim has walked beside me, and I have walked beside her. We have encouraged one another, cheered for one another, supported one another through all the ups and downs of life. Even as I am struggling to write this post because I am overly tired, Kimmie comes to the rescue. She shares with me from her own leadership experience as a nurse, how important it is to help a person find their \u201cwhy.\u201d She told me if they do not know their why then when the hard times come, they will not last.<\/p>\n

As I am talking to my friend, I am amazed at how far she has come in life. This is not the same extremely shy woman I met as a college freshman who would barely look at you, let alone speak to you. She told me that leaders help others to see the best in themselves, to find their potential. Right in line with what Camacho wrote, \u201cGod sees leaders waiting to be discovered.\u201d[2]<\/a> \u00a0That is what we have done for each other.<\/p>\n

Tom Camacho describes four parts to Coaching Leadership:<\/p>\n

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  1. Deep listening<\/li>\n
  2. Asking great questions<\/li>\n
  3. Cooperating with the Holy Spirit<\/li>\n
  4. Determining the next right steps.[3]<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    For someone who has not read this book, my friend certainly understands the principles. She is not as shy as she once was, but her shyness taught her the value of listening to people. She will let you talk and share your story. She engages you with great questions and hard-won insight.<\/p>\n

    Kim is not your typical church-going Christian, but she is vocal about her faith. She will ask God to show you the right path. She does this in a non-traditional way that us authentic and real. Camacho writes, \u201cThe Holy Spirit does the work of refining<\/em>. He is in charge, not us. Our role is to learn to work in dynamic cooperation with him.\u201d[4]<\/a> She would not put it in these terms, but Kim lets the Holy Spirit guide her. The Holy Spirit shines brightly through her in the way she lives her life. When it comes to the next steps, Kim trusts in the Lord to guide her path. She will encourage me to find my path, to ask God to show me what to do.<\/p>\n

    My friendship with Kim is treasure I did not expect to find when we first met all those years ago in college. I think that is what most speaks to me right now about this book. We will find treasure in the most unexpected places if we just take the time to look. I almost missed out on this friendship. When I first met Kim, I must sadly admit that I remember thinking I was doing her a favor by sitting with her in the dining commons. The reality is that I am blessed because she chose to be my friend.<\/p>\n

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    [1]<\/a> Tom Camacho, Mining for Gold: Developing Kingdom Leaders through Coaching<\/em>. (London, Inter-Varsity Press, 2019), pg. 63.<\/p>\n

    [2]<\/a> Ibid. pg. 9.<\/p>\n

    [3]<\/a> Ibid. pg. 59-60.<\/p>\n

    [4]<\/a> Ibid. pg. 6.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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