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Manfred Kets de Veries\u2018 book The Leadership Mystique: Leading Behavior in the Human Enterprise <\/em>is full of insights from a real life leadership experiences helpful for leaders seek to be effective in leadership positions.<\/em> In the preface, de Veries highlights the conspicuous neglect in the research for human factors, instead specialists in this field give precedence to organization over people (pg. xix). Thus the challenge he presents to his readers is to try to understand leadership dynamics from the interpersonal dimension. Does this challenge sound familiar in the church? Do churches give prominence to events and programs that would suck life out of their ministers? What would the motivation be for giving precedence to programs over people?itisexam.com<\/a><\/p>\n

Perhaps programs might make the church look effective from outside, but from inside, too many commitments often cause burn out in both leaders and the congregation. Also the tendency to prioritize programs leads the church to neglect the need to invest in the development of their leaders. As Varies rightly puts it, \u201cThe effectiveness of an organization\u2019s employees\u2014particularly individuals in leadership positions determines how the organizational \u201cmachine\u201d will perform\u201d (pg.1). If the effectiveness of the church depends on the effectiveness of it leaders, the church ought to invest in their leaders\u2019 development. Thus, Veries contends that emotional intelligence is what we need; to know people as individuals, in their social settings, and within the context of organization. Speaking from the clinical paradigm, de Veries highlights the importance of paying \u201cattention to internal world of people\u201d (pg. xx). Because leaders who have skills of empathy have the ability to manage emotions in others, they can influence co-workers via emotional means (pg.27). As humans we long for meaningful relationships and desire to be known. However, taking time to interact with people and listen to their stories is one of the challenges of our times. In fact having an accountability partner, someone who listens to their challenges and helps them process their thoughts is a challenge for many young ministers.<\/p>\n

As I write, I am reminded to reflect on my own leadership style. I realize that although I feel I have been making an effort to be as effective as I could be, there is this feeling coming from my inner self, telling me to slow down and find rest in God. However, I struggle to find balance in my life. This term especially feels like I am in the middle of a race with weekly readings and posting on top of my ministry work there is almost not enough time to rest and play. However, to be effective as a leader, I need to develop active listening skills, which requires me to set time to read Scripture and pray. Besides, I also need to seek the assistance of others in my life to help me grow in my discipleship. I need to restart my weekly visit with my accountability partner to pray and listen to one another. After all as de Veries states \u201cemotional intelligence is not something leaders can learn from \u201ca self-help book\u201d but it is an experiential process\u2026\u201d (pg.6). Therefore, trusting in God\u2019s grace I plan to devote more time to actively listen to God and be intentional to develop my relationship with others in my circle.
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