{"id":24182,"date":"2019-10-10T11:04:46","date_gmt":"2019-10-10T18:04:46","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dminlgp\/?p=24182"},"modified":"2019-10-10T11:04:46","modified_gmt":"2019-10-10T18:04:46","slug":"what-do-you-see-and-what-do-you-really-want-to-know","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/blogs.georgefox.edu\/dlgp\/what-do-you-see-and-what-do-you-really-want-to-know\/","title":{"rendered":"What Do You See and What Do You Really Want to Know?"},"content":{"rendered":"

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All photos courtesy of Chris Chan Shim (@royyaldog on Instagram)<\/p>\n

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Do you want to skim the surface with idle chat as you size me up wondering where I\u2019m from? Do you care that I have to check the \u201cOther\u201d box every single time! No frustration here. Nope. How much of this book \u2013 the biracial Asian, Christian, heterosexual female \u2013 do you really want to read? \u201cIn tackling a difficult book for the first time, read it through without ever stopping to look up or ponder the things you do not understand right away (36).\u201d This might be a little difficult to do since I\u2019m not much of a talker, partly because I\u2019m a private person and my context of not being welcomed and wanted and blah blah blah in many circles has caused me to read the room\/situation\/person first.<\/p>\n

Have you googled me in hopes that you can do some inspectional reading of the jacket cover and find out who has praised me and what social media accounts I participate in and what websites I might be present on? Don\u2019t go there right now. You won\u2019t find me. Sometimes I wonder if that\u2019s an algorithm thing or if I am able to remain sleuth-like even in cyberspace. I\u2019m always surprised by how many people go to my Instagram account and their first remark is, \u201cYou have over 10K followers!\u201d What does that mean to you? Does it mean that you think I have some success with social media? Maybe. Maybe I don\u2019t though. And so I digress, which is what can happen when reading the jacket only. To stay on course, it\u2019s not just about skimming the table of contents and back cover or checking to see who wrote reviews. Although these are all good and these will help you decide whether to go further, they don\u2019t always fit the crux of the problem or question you have. That being said, it is mandatory to google search me and browse my Facebook and Instagram account if you\u2019re going to be able to see some of the Table of Contents.<\/p>\n

Are you interested in reading my prologue so that you can decide whether a further conversation is necessary? When I speak with other mixed-race individuals, one of the common first questions a person will ask of them is either \u201cWhere are you from?\u201d (so rude) or \u201cWhat are you?\u201d (so, so rude \u2013 I would add another \u201cso\u201d for emphasis, but I hope you get the idea). To which I often respond, \u201cI\u2019m human. What are you?\u201d Cheeky, I know.<\/p>\n

Understandably, we are all a difficult read and human beings are generally very curious. This is why I talk to people on the Tube in London knowing that I am breaking British etiquette and knowing that Jason Clark, Lead Mentor, is arm\u2019s length away and probably cringing with all of his over 6-foot frame, laughing nervously.<\/p>\n

Where is the compromise? How do you know if you want to buy the book if you don\u2019t have some skimming conversation? Because, let\u2019s face it, once you buy the book, especially for doctoral research, you should know that you want to read it analytically. Because there will be some expectation that once bought there will be some deep diving into that book.<\/p>\n

Mixed-race individuals understand this on one level. So the real question is how do you graciously encounter the book without ripping the pages and spilling hot coffee\/tea on the pages? \u201cThe difficulty becomes evident as soon as we examine the phrase \u201c\u2026two or more books on the same subject.\u201d What do we mean by the \u201csame subject\u201d (301)? Mixed-race people often live amidst two very different cultures but are one person. Often, both sides of those cultures won\u2019t engage because they are not \u201cwhite\u201d or \u201cblack\u201d or \u201cMexican\u201d or \u201c[fill in the blank]\u201d enough or \u201cKorean\u201d enough. This leads to long periods of loneliness \u2013 being the only book on the shelf that doesn\u2019t get read, doesn\u2019t get pulled off the shelf and never invited to tea or coffee. So forget the potential for having pages ripped or drink spilled upon the pages. This I know for sure, we no longer want to be classified under the one-drop rule (https:\/\/en.m.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/One-drop_rule<\/a>), but people make snap judgments when they encounter others. They look at the cover and either become fearful or know that this book just isn\u2019t for them.<\/p>\n

In order to get to know a mixed-race person, one has to understand the dualities and complexities before entering into that conversation, BUT \u201c\u2026it is in a sense true that the identification of the subject matter must follow the reading, not precede it (305).\u201d In other words, don\u2019t judge a book by its cover. Confusing, yes?<\/p>\n

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Van Doren, Charles. How to Read a Book (A Touchstone Book) Touchstone. Kindle Edition.<\/p>\n

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